I had a lengthy back and forth with a nice expectant mother whose adopted dog’s aggression issues were wearing them down and frightening them about what would happen when the baby entered the picture.
My godmother recommended I get in touch with you and get your books, and so here I am. Unfortunately I don’t think that we have your show broadcast here in Los Angeles, but she says it’s just great.
Our dog problem is as follows: A year ago we got a female black German shepherd mutt from a rescue center because we thought that our old coy dog (no joke) could use the company in his last couple of years. The red flag was that Sadie, this new mutt, had been returned by a family for being territorial in some way (on the leash perhaps) but we couldn’t get details (our mistake). Sadie has turned out to be wonderful with Hector (the old coy dog) and with us. We have tried to make her earn everything, in the sense that she sits and lays on command, eats after Hector, walks out the door after us, never gets on the bed, etc. But there seems to be a kind of glitch in her system (or perhaps ours!) because she is aggressive with guests and generally extremely territorial. She nips (which could be construed as biting) almost anyone who enters our home, and so we either use a muzzle or try to work with her or we just put her in back when anyone is over.
We are about to have a baby (2 weeks) and so the stakes have gotten high; we are working with a great trainer and she feels mixed about whether we can make it work. My suspicion is not that she’ll be a danger to the baby so much as even more aggressive with anyone who comes near it. But both are frightening prospects.
I am distraught about the prospect of giving her up but know that might have to be the case; do you have advice from afar about how to deal with her territorialism, or with the baby?
Thanks very much,
Olivia in Los Angeles
Olivia then called into the show and I gave her a bunch of advice about different ways she could handle the episodes and also to get some Spirit Essences to get some sort of a shift in the dog’s mental state. Then I wrote to her:
I’ve been thinking about you and how things are going. You have so much on your plate with the baby coming. Just wanted you to know you were on my mind and my fingers are crossed things are going better.
Hi Tracie
Thanks for the email. I bought the Spirit Essences and have used them for two days and I wonder if it has a similar make up to rescue remedy which has been recommended by our trainer – do you know?
We have finally, after a year, come to a kind of regime with Sadie when guests come involving a “go to your place” scenario, as I don’t think she is a dog that can handle going to the door yet… We use treats up the wazoo, have the guest come in, work to keep her in her place and then stay there as the guest enters the house and carries on… At this point we don’t have a follow up regime, except that sometimes she comes and takes a good treat from the guest and then returns to her place. I’m not sure what we can do next in terms of getting her to actually walk around amongst the guests without biting and barking.
Also, I absolutely do not feel comfortable leaving her unmuzzled with children or afraid-of-dog-people, so I am trying to figure out whether the muzzle (which we have tried to make fun) makes her more defensive or whether a leash and haulty in the house is the better option.
Last night I took Sadie to a friend’s house who has a dog and a newborn baby and she was downright demure, a bit scared and anxious but not the least aggressive, and this is typical in other peoples’ houses, so the aggressiveness is very specific to our house and “intruders”, as she sees it.
So, that’s the skinny, if you have any thoughts on any of the above, I’d love to hear them, Olivia
I’d hate to see you have to give up the dog but I fear that if you don’t get professional help to identify and address this issue that you may be pushed into relinquishing your dog. There are a few vet behaviorists in Los Angeles – Dr. Karen Sueda at VCA Clinic in Los Angeles comes to mind. You need to determine what has caused his behavior and even whether you need a vet-prescribed medication to help with it.
As for the Spirit Essences, they are much more specific than Rescue Remedy which is generalized and not directed at specific emotional issues or states.
You need to use the two essences consistently, one in the food and one rubbed inside the ears and done with a clear intent (there is a whole “spiritual” unscientific aspect to the essences that i cannot understand or explain but it WORKS – way too many people have had success for it to be anything but truly effective
Tracie

